10 Game Changing Life Lessons to Learn by 50
Life is one big learning experience.
Sometimes we get the results we want while other times we learn some tough lessons that we might not always want. Every single day life throws out new challenges and it’s up to us to adapt and push forward.
While I’m sure you learn thousands of lessons in your lifetime, here are 10 that I think will dramatically improve your life. The sooner you learn them and implement them, the happier you will be and the better you will feel.
10 Life Lessons to Learn By 50
1. Embrace Failure
So many of us spend our entire lives trying to avoid failure; when in reality, failing is how you become successful. The fear of failure is indoctrinated into us as kids so it’s up to us as adults to reframe “failure”.
Think about it…
As children, we get a big red “F” on our schoolwork when things don't go well, usually representing failure. Every kid wants to avoid this negative feeling as they worry about getting in trouble from parents or teachers. Then, it’s very easy to want to avoid failure for the rest of our lives.
But in reality, the people you aspire to be like the most, simply failed the most.
Thomas Edison failed 10,000 times before figuring out the lightbulb. And top athletes who make millions of dollars have made hundreds of mistakes in practice and in games.
The point is everyone fails. But how you deal with failure is what really matters. Instead of trying not to fail, learn to love failure.
Use each “failure” as a learning experience so you can get better and move on. Remember, the most successful people in the world failed the most and the fastest and that’s why they succeed.
2. Own Your Morning
The morning is the time when super achievers separate themselves from everyone else in the world. If you sleep in, procrastinate, and get to work at the last minute every day, you are wasting valuable time.
Mornings are where the magic happens. This is the rare time of day when you can work on anything without interruptions. And in today’s world, that’s nearly impossible with so much going on in our busy lives.
Don’t take the mornings for granted and squander a golden opportunity to get ahead. Instead, make the most of your mornings by being extremely productive and intentional with your time.
Trust me, your goals will thank you!
3. Master Yourself
Self-awareness might be the most important skill that anyone can learn in life. As serial entrepreneur Gary Vaynerchuk said, “Figure out who you are, optimize who you are, but never apologize for who you are ever.”
The more you know yourself, the more you can adapt to any situation that life throws at you.
When you know yourself, you can avoid your triggers, focus on your passions, and not worry about the opinion of others.
Some great ways to get to know yourself include:
- Sitting in silence.
- Writing in a journal.
- Monitoring your thoughts.
When you truly learn about who you are and what you want, everything in life changes for the better.
4. Learn the Power of Focus
Focus is a lost art as most of society is scrolling through feeds, checking emails, and basically a prisoner to our screens. While of course there are some positive benefits, one of the biggest downsides to that is it makes it nearly impossible to focus.
Yet, if you want to create massive shifts in your life, being able to focus is your secret weapon. Even if you feel that it’s impossible to focus, just know that you can reshape your ability to focus just like any other habit.
When you learn how to focus, you can get more done in less time, take advantage of momentum, and push past challenges faster than ever. Sometimes you need to silence your phone so you can get into a flow state and create momentum in your life.
5. Create Lasting Friendships
When you’re young, it’s easy to make friends and have a bigger network of people. But as we get older and have more responsibilities in our lives, sometimes even long-term friendships can dwindle.
Don’t fall into this trap and instead, be extremely intentional about maintaining relationships with friends and family. While you should still look to meet new people too, don’t forget the ones who have been around for years or even decades.
Having a support system that is always there for you is clutch when times get tough.
6. Perfection Doesn’t Exist
In school, we’re always taught “Practice makes perfect.” But in reality, perfection does not exist.
That’s why people love following individuals who are “flawed” on social media - it’s easier to relate to them. The people who claim to be perfect are impossible to understand because none of us are perfect!
Just remember, no one is perfect so stop expecting perfection from yourself as well. When you learn to embrace failure (#1) and get to know yourself (#3), you’ll stop trying to be perfect.
7. Health is Wealth
The sad truth is that most people don’t work on their health until it’s too late. To me, there is nothing worse than working your entire life only to retire and battle with health issues.
Instead of waiting until it’s a lot harder to change your body, start taking action now. The sooner you can start living a healthier lifestyle, the more rewards you will reap in the future.
Think about it, when you get to be in your 50s, 60s, or 70s you want to be able to do everything that you did in your 30s or 40s. Sure, you might not bench press as much or hit the pavement jogging every morning, but you don’t want your health to hinder your ability to enjoy life.
At the end of the day, you and only you are responsible for your health. Get on it sooner rather than later so you can enjoy the rest of your life and not miss out on any epic moments.
Don’t forget, you only get one body in this lifetime. Treat it right!
8. Keep Having Fun
Just because you get older doesn’t mean you should stop having fun. For some reason, so many adults stop doing the things they once loved and then wonder why their lives don’t bring them joy.
Instead, make it a point to do things that light you up and that you’re passionate about. Whether it’s traveling, golfing, starting a new business, or something else, chase the fun!
Life is too short to be serious all the time. The people that enjoy life the most are the ones who refuse to take life too seriously and instead, enjoy the wild ride.
We can’t predict what will happen in life but we can always control one thing - our attitude. Do everything in your power to keep a positive attitude, no matter what challenges life throws at you.
9. Nothing is Forever
Life is too short to get caught up in one specific event.
Nothing is forever, and even the hardest times will come to pass. Time really does heal all, but it’s up to you to remember that and not get bogged down in the little things.
So many times we find ourselves dwelling, worrying, and getting frustrated with things that won’t matter in the long run. Nothing is forever, so don’t spend extra energy worrying about it.
10. Never Stop Learning
Finally, just because you get older doesn’t mean you should ever stop learning. As I’ve found out over time, the more you learn, it feels like the less you know about life. And that’s a good thing!
Learning is mental exercise for your brain. The more you are actively engaging and challenging yourself, the better. The people who stop learning after their 20s or 30s are the ones who will get left behind.
Make it a point to constantly get around new people, learn new things, and get out of your comfort zone. Sure, it’s scary from time to time, but anything worth doing is always a little frightening.
Life is what you make it, but you have more control than you might realize. As long as you focus on the right stuff and don’t get into fear, worry, and regret like most people, you can find ultimate happiness.
As Dr. Richard Bandler said, “The best thing about the past is that it’s over. The best thing about the future is that it’s yet to come. The best thing about the present is that it’s here now.”
Make it a point to live each moment in the present and not get bogged down by the little things in life. The sooner you learn and implement these lessons, the happier you’ll end up.